Only when you create space for your dark parts to speak, and you listen to what they have to say, will they truly begin to lower the volume of their screams. They need to trust that you will listen to them rather than attempting to shut them up. Attempting to shut them up will, in the end, only make their screams louder; begging to be heard.
Even in your shame, even in your fear or your darkness, God is bending down, trying to gently lift your head so He can look into your eyes. This is what I believe he may say… "Even in your shame or darkest moments, I still love you, no matter what. Nothing about you is too much to handle. You are beloved. Your shame will be drowned out by my love if only you let me in. I will shine light in those dark places, and you can break free from the chains that keep you bound. All you have to do is let me in, my sweet child."
Many interactions I have had with Christians have left me feeling more shame and more worthless than I already felt. But what if that's just the flawed humanity within each of us? What if they were projecting their own fears and shame onto me and it had nothing to do with me or God?
I firmly believe that God is love. He's not going to condemn us to change. He's going to love us unconditionally until all of our dark parts are exposed into the light: until there is freedom where we were once shackled down by shame and darkness. Shame cannot survive when it's brought into the light.