Loneliness is common in this high-tech day in age. We are more "connected" to our phones than we are to the people we see as we scroll. That does not mean that it should be accepted as normal or "just a part of life" that needs to be endured. We were made to be in relationship and community with each other, not isolated, left to deal with life's ups and downs alone. "The Lord God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone…" (Genesis 2:18 NIV).
"A strong girl keeps her stuff in line, even when she has tears streaming down her face, she still manages to say those two words, 'I'm fine.'" (Unknown author).
I thought that being strong was to put on a tough face, denying my emotions and denying my struggles as a human. I have found the exact opposite to be true. In the past year, I have made
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There are still days when I would much rather hide than share the weight, but God has been faithful in showing me that this life is not meant to be lived and navigated alone. There was a day in February that I was having a particularly hard day. I was struggling with a lot of shame and instead of talking to someone, I locked myself in my basement, thinking that numbing out in front of the TV was the only way to make it through the night. The remote was in my hand, I was about to press play, and then my phone rang. It was one of my lifelong friends.
I thought about not answering but made the choice to pick up the phone and I am so glad that I did. It got me out of my own head and was just what I needed. Then about an hour later, as I was crawling into bed, I got a call from another very important person in my life. They were checking in and making sure that I knew that I was loved. Knowing I was having a tough day, they made a point to connect. Ready to sleep, I closed my eyes but immediately opened them again when I heard my phone buzz on my
The importance and necessity of having close friends whom I can do life with
"Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone is who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken." (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NLT)